Matchmaker Musings

Audition advice to be taken with many grains of salt. Everybody's got an opinion. Season to taste. ;)

How to Stop Breaking Promises to Yourself

Apr 22, 2016

Summer stock season is coming to a close, and you know what that means…

Time to take stock of your choices.

(And yes, I took stock of my decision to make that joke and I REGRET NOTHING!!!)

Annnnyway…

How did this summer go for you?

Were you the productivity monster you told yourself you’d be?!

Did you clean your room, update your audition book, take 3 dance classes a week, eliminate gluten from your diet, update your website, hit the gym every morning,  finish the “Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up,” practice guitar everyday, read 20 new plays, reconcile with your father, and quit your day job?!

Did you?!??!

….

Yeeeeaaaaahhhhh, me neither.

But let’s be real, that is an unreasonable list! If those are your goals, you are setting yourself up for failure.

This is one of the traps I see my clients falling into all the time.

Let me know if this pattern sounds familiar:

  1. An events spurs you to action and jump starts your motivation (i.e....
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You're Not Crazy

Feb 22, 2016

“Crazy.”

Ever notice how often we throw that word around?

Especially on the internet.

Especially when we have the comfort of anonymity.

Especially in reference to women whose behavior we do not approve of.

Let’s talk about that for a second, shall we?

If you’ve been on Audition Update anytime recently, you may have noticed this trend. It seems like every day there’s a new thread lamenting “these crazy non-eq girls” starting lists at 4am.

The nerve of them! Those crazies!

Here’s where I take issue.  By all means, vent. The non-equity audition circuit is BRUTAL. But the people starting lists at 4 in the morning aren’t “crazy.” They’re responding very rationally to a very broken system. Are you angry that you can’t show up to an audition after 7am and still get seen?  By all means, be angry. That sucks. But “those crazies” are not your enemy.

The fact that those women are behaving in a...

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#Sorry #Grateful : Giving Thanks in the Digital Age Without Being a Dick

Nov 30, 2015

We all know the true meaning of Thanksgiving: Overeating and genocide remembrance.

Oh no, sorry, I meant that other thing that sometimes makes me uncomfortable: Gratitude.

Or, to be more specific, public displays of gratitude. PDG, if you will.

(Oh, you won’t? Moving right along then…)

By PDG, I don’t mean the practice going around the dinner table and saying what you’re grateful for.  I think that’s actually a lovely tradition. (Although, you KNOW Aunt Sharron is going to pull out “health and family,” so make sure to have a second piece prepared.)

We all know that gratitude is a good thing.

In fact, neuroscientists have been telling us for years that practicing gratitude is one of the chemical keys to happiness.

It’s science.

However, the hysterical Twitter personality/badass author AnnoyingActorFriend has been telling us for years that tweeting #grateful #blessed and #ItsAllHappening are the social media keys to assholery.

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Why Pixar Movies Work (And that Ballad Does Not)

Jun 15, 2015

This weekend I made the EXCELLENT choice to rewatch Pixar’s “Coco.”

As expected, I laughed, I sighed, and I cried buckets. I very rarely cry at movies, but inevitably SOB during Pixar movies. Don’t judge. We all have.  Those emotionally manipulative warlocks had us choking up 5 minutes into “UP”!

And as an actor it made me wonder: Why is it exactly that Pixar seems to have a direct line to our tear ducts?

And more importantly: How can I steal this wizardry?!?

Because let’s face it, when was the last time the short-song cut of that contemporary ballad got HALF the emotional reaction of Sully saying goodbye to Boo in Monsters, Inc.? What are we doing wrong?!

I have a theory!

Let’s take a look at five of the most tear-jerking Pixar moments and see what they have in common. In no particular order:

  1.  UP: The Opening Montage

We see the a couple fall in love, get married, deal with infertility, build a home, have some small...

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